Holiday Co-Parenting: A Guide to Communicating Effectively With Your Ex

As both a family law attorney and a mother of two, I understand firsthand how complicated the holidays can feel for parents navigating shared parenting time—especially when it comes to communicating with your ex. The excitement of the season is often mixed with stress, uncertainty, and sometimes even anxiety about how holiday pick-ups and drop-offs will go. In the video and article below, I share practical guidance to help you approach holiday parenting time with clarity and care. 

In this video, Attorney Gianna Colucci shares insights on communicating with your co-parent during holiday exchanges. 

Your Parenting Agreement Is Your Guide 

First and foremost, Ohio law requires you to follow the parenting agreement approved by the court. This agreement outlines how holiday exchanges should happen, and it’s important to stick to those terms. Communication with the other parent is often necessary to coordinate travel, confirm plans, and ensure your children’s needs are met. 

I understand that this kind of communication isn’t always easy and often requires effort from both parents. However, by focusing on what you can control and striving for effective and respectful exchanges, you can help support your child’s best interests, even when the situation is challenging. 

Communication: More Than Just Logistics 

While communicating with your ex isn’t always a legal issue, the way you interact can have legal consequences. Here’s my guiding rule for clients: 

Assume that everything you write or say—whether it’s a text, email, or voicemail—could be reviewed by a judge. 

In any custody or parenting dispute, your communication history may be presented in court. Even deleted messages can sometimes be recovered. When emotions run high, remembering this can help you pause and choose your words carefully. 

Tips for Peaceful and Productive Communication 

1. Be Polite and Respectful. 

 No matter how tense things get, always keep your language respectful. Avoid swearing, name-calling, or sarcasm. This protects your children from unnecessary conflict and helps you maintain credibility if legal issues arise. 

2. Agree on What Information to Share. 

 Before the holidays, discuss with your co-parent what updates you’ll exchange about the kids. Do you want to be notified if they’re sick, or only in emergencies? Will they be traveling out of state? Setting expectations in advance can prevent misunderstandings. 

3. Facilitate Contact With the Kids. 

 Both parents have the right to communicate with their children during holiday visits, unless a court order says otherwise. If you can, schedule calls ahead of time. If that’s not possible, offer alternative times within the next 48 hours. A quick check-in can mean the world to your child. 

Remember: It’s All for Your Children 

Peaceful, respectful interactions between parents create a safe and joyful environment for kids to enjoy the holidays. Your children will remember how you handled these moments—and you have the power to make those memories positive. 

Conclusion 

 Holiday parenting exchanges in Northeast Ohio can be challenging, but respectful communication and adherence to your parenting agreement help protect your children and your legal interests. If you’re facing co-parenting challenges or have questions about your rights, I’m here to help. 

Book a paid consultation now or contact our office to see how N.P. Weiss Law can help. 

About the Author 

Attorney Gianna Colucci focuses her practice on family law, guiding clients through sensitive legal matters with clarity, compassion, and professionalism. A Northeast Ohio native, Gianna brings a thoughtful, client-centered approach to every case, helping individuals and families navigate divorce, custody, and support issues with confidence. Learn more about Gianna Colucci. 

This blog post is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal advice. Reading this post does not create an attorney-client relationship. For personalized guidance, please consult with a licensed Ohio attorney.